The Importance of Community in Your Romance Author Life
Community. Everyone is talking about community nowadays.
There are lots of reasons why it keeps coming up, but I believe that part of the reason why it’s a big topic right now is because people are increasingly recognizing the value of connection — especially in a world that can often feel disconnected. The rise of online platforms and social media has made it easier than ever to form and join communities, whether they’re centered around shared interests, professions, or personal goals.
In the context of writing and publishing, community has become a buzzword because it provides essential support that many writers, especially those working in solitary environments, need. A strong community offers emotional support, feedback, accountability, and networking opportunities, all of which can significantly impact a writer’s success.
This surge in interest also reflects a broader societal shift toward valuing collaboration and mutual support over isolation and competition. As people become more aware of the mental health benefits of community and the creative boosts it can provide, it’s no wonder that everyone is talking about it.
But what does all this mean for the average romance author?
Well, in my opinion, the sense of belonging and understanding that comes from being part of a community of like-minded authors can be invaluable. It’s one of the most underestimated tools in the writer’s toolbox Stephen King told us we needed to have. It nurtures creativity, fuels productivity, and paves the way for professional success—all while providing the emotional support that every writer needs.
Emotional Support and Encouragement
Solidarity to all my author pals across all genres, but as a romance author and editor, I think that writing and publishing romance is a journey filled with emotional highs and lows and is slightly more intense. Our readers are voracious, and they’ve become accustomed to their favorite author delivering three to four books a year. This level of demand adds an extra layer of pressure that isn’t always present in other genres. Romance readers are passionate and loyal, which is a beautiful thing, but it also means they’re eagerly awaiting the next book almost as soon as they finish the last one! Keeping up with this demand requires not only a consistent writing routine but also the ability to maintain the emotional depth and connection that readers crave in romance novels.
The intensity of this journey is compounded by the emotional investment that goes into writing romance. These stories delve into the core of human relationships, exploring love in all its forms—its joys, its heartaches, its complexities. They can be emotional and heartwrenching to write. As authors, we’re not just telling a story. We’re tapping into deep emotions and crafting characters that feel real and relatable to our readers. This level of emotional engagement can be exhausting, especially when trying to balance it with the rapid production schedule that the genre often demands.
So, while every genre has its unique challenges, the romance genre, with its combination of high reader expectations, emotional intensity, and rapid publication pace, can be particularly demanding. But it’s also incredibly rewarding. The connection we build with our readers, the stories we bring to life, and the communities we form along the way make every high and low worth it. And we do all of this while handling critical feedback from readers, peers, and the publishing industry as a whole.
I don’t like to play into the commentary that romance, as a genre, is treated like the step-child of the industry, but it’s kinda true in some respects. Authors and their work are often unfairly dismissed or critiqued by those who don’t fully appreciate its intricacies. Negative reviews or dismissive comments can sting, especially when you’ve poured your heart into your work. This can lead to self-doubt, making you question your abilities and the value of your stories. Maintaining passion for writing love stories in the face of such criticism can be tough, especially when it feels like the world doesn’t fully understand or respect your craft.
This is where the power of community comes in. Being part of a group of fellow romance writers who understand these struggles can make all the difference. In a supportive community, you’re not just another writer facing these challenges alone—you’re surrounded by people who get it, who have been there, and who are there to lift you up when things get tough. When self-doubt creeps in, a community can offer the encouragement you need to keep going. They remind you of the importance of your work, the joy it brings to readers, and the unique voice you bring to the genre. Sharing your experiences with others who face the same emotional challenges creates a bond that’s both comforting and empowering.
Whether it’s through a simple “You’ve got this!” in a group chat, or a more in-depth conversation about handling criticism, the support from your community can reignite your passion and keep you inspired.
Communities also help you celebrate the wins, no matter how small. They cheer you on when you finish a draft, hit a word count goal, or even when you just show up to write on a difficult day. This collective encouragement helps to maintain your momentum and keeps the love for writing alive, even on days when it feels hard to continue. It’s how you grow a thick skin, problem-solve, and learn to talk directly to your ideal reader instead of falling prey to the discourse and feeling hopeless about your chosen career.
Networking and Professional Growth
Networking is often talked about as a crucial part of an author’s journey, and for romance authors, it’s even more important. The romance genre has its own set of rules, trends, and reader expectations, and connecting with professionals who understand these nuances can make all the difference in your career.
Being part of a writing community is like having an insider’s guide to the industry. The more authors you have in your circle, the more informed you will be about what’s happening in the romance genre—whether it’s the latest trends, which publishers are actively seeking new voices or tips for navigating the submission process. By talking to fellow authors, you can gain valuable insights that might not be readily available elsewhere. For example, a conversation with a community member might reveal which agents are currently interested in the subgenre you’re writing in or which editors are known for their strong collaboration with romance authors. These details are crucial when you’re pitching your work because they help you target your submissions more effectively. Instead of sending your manuscript into a black hole of form rejections and no-responses, you’ll know exactly where it’s likely to get the best reception.
Beyond the practical advice, these discussions can also lead to opportunities that might not be advertised publicly. Fellow authors can inform you about upcoming writing conferences, workshops, or even anthologies looking for contributions. Often, these opportunities are shared informally within the community before they’re widely known, giving you a head start.
Engaging with a community isn’t just about finding opportunities; it’s about building relationships that can support you throughout your career. The romance genre is constantly evolving, with new subgenres emerging and reader tastes shifting. Authors in your network might be experimenting with new styles, themes, or narrative structures that could soon become popular. Being connected with other authors and professionals means you’ll stay informed about these changes, allowing you to adapt and grow. Plus, the relationships you build within a community can lead to mentorships where more experienced authors share their insights and guide you through the ups and downs of a writing career. These connections often turn into long-term friendships and professional partnerships that help sustain your career over the years. Increasingly, knowing the ins-and-outs of the industry boils down to who you know. Being in a community with fellow authors keeps you plugged into the romance writing world, opens doors to new opportunities, and helps you make more strategic decisions about your writing career.
Creative Collaboration and Inspiration
This is probably not the first time I’ve said this in this space, and it won’t be the last, but I love talking to fellow authors about the way they write their stories. There’s something magical about bouncing ideas off fellow writers who are just as passionate about writing romances as you are. Participating in critique groups, for instance, offers a chance to get fresh eyes on your work. Sometimes, when you’ve been immersed in your own story for so long, it’s hard to see it from a new perspective. Fellow romance authors can point out nuances in your characters or plot that you might have missed, helping you to refine and strengthen your narrative. Their feedback can spark new ideas or inspire you to take your story in a direction you hadn’t considered before.
Co-writing projects and anthologies are fantastic avenues for collaboration. They enable you to merge your distinct style and voice with that of other authors, creating something truly unique. Such partnerships can push you out of your comfort zone and inspire you to explore fresh horizons. Whether it’s experimenting with different subgenres, trying out new narrative techniques, or tackling daunting storylines, these collaborative efforts can expand your creative repertoire and introduce you to new audiences.
Brainstorming sessions within the community are also invaluable. There’s a unique energy that comes from a group of romance authors throwing ideas around, building off each other’s suggestions, and getting excited about where a story could go. These sessions can help you break through creative blocks, uncover fresh plot twists, and deepen your character development. It’s a reminder that while writing is often a solitary activity, the creative process doesn’t have to be.
Not only that, inspiration flows from reading and critiquing each other’s work. As you engage with the stories your peers are creating, you’ll find yourself inspired to explore different subgenres, styles, or themes in your own writing. Maybe you’ve always written contemporary romance but find yourself intrigued by the way a fellow author handles historical settings or paranormal elements. Critiquing their work not only helps them grow but can also push you to expand your own creative boundaries. Creative collaboration isn’t just about making your stories better—it’s about making the entire writing journey more fulfilling. You get to share in the joys and challenges of the craft with people who understand your passion, and together, you create stories that resonate with readers and with each other.
Accountability and Productivity
Accountability is a game-changer for a lot of romance authors, especially when it comes to staying on track with writing goals. Whether you’re trying to finish a manuscript, meet a submission deadline, or participate in writing challenges, having a community to hold you accountable can make all the difference. It’s like having a built-in support system that cheers you on, nudges you forward, and sometimes gives you that gentle push you need when you’re feeling stuck.
Community-driven accountability works because it adds a layer of responsibility that’s not just to yourself but to others who are invested in your progress. You may or may not have heard of the saying, “Spelling is a spell.” Basically, it means that when you write something down or say it out loud, you speak it into existence. In other words, when you’ve shared your goals with your writing group, you’re more likely to stick to them. Whether it’s agreeing to share a new chapter by the end of the week or committing to daily word counts during a challenge, knowing that others are expecting you to deliver can be incredibly motivating.
Writing groups and challenges are especially effective at boosting productivity. As someone who hosts a community and runs a quarterly challenge, I can say that they’ve helped me keep writing during some of my darkest moments. Take #20kin5Days, for example. Yes, we all jump in with the desire to hit that 20,000-word target, but over the years, I’ve come to value the camaraderie more than hitting a bit word count goal. There’s just something about being “in the shit” with each other, that shared experience that keeps the momentum going, even on tough days and well after the challenge is over. It’s easier to push through writer’s block or procrastination when you know your fellow authors are right there with you, working towards their own goals.
Accountability isn’t just about meeting deadlines—it’s about creating a consistent, productive writing habit that can lead to real progress and success. That kind of support can make all the difference in turning your writing dreams into reality.
Long-Term Personal and Professional Relationships
This is probably the biggest benefit for me and one of my favorite things I’ve watched happen in Wordmakers. Friendships. I’ve watched several true and lasting friendships grow in this group I created, and it’s my absolute favorite thing. Being part of a writing community means you’re surrounded by people who truly understand the unique challenges and joys of writing. Over time, the bonds you form with these writers can become some of the most meaningful relationships in your life. These friendships are built on shared experiences—whether it’s the thrill of finishing a manuscript, the sting of a tough critique, or the celebration of a book launch. Having a network of people who genuinely get what you’re going through makes the writing process a lot less lonely and a lot more enjoyable.
On a professional level, these relationships can also be incredibly beneficial. Writers within your community can become trusted critique partners, co-authors, or even collaborators on larger projects like anthologies, retreats, or conferences. These professional relationships often lead to opportunities you might not have found on your own, whether it’s a referral to an agent, an invitation to join a panel, or the chance to be part of a joint promotional effort. As your careers grow, so does your network, and these connections can open doors to new possibilities. Many authors have credited their involvement in these communities as key to their professional growth. They’ve found mentors who helped them navigate the publishing world, writing partners who pushed them to new creative heights, and friends who stood by them through the ups and downs of writing life.
These long-term relationships are less about professional gain and more about the personal fulfillment that comes from being part of a supportive and understanding network. Knowing that you have a group of people who are there for you, both in your writing and in your personal life, can make all the difference in maintaining your passion and perseverance as a writer. They provide a support system that extends far beyond individual projects, enriching your life and career in ways that are truly invaluable. Whether you’re just starting out or are a seasoned author, these connections can help you grow, both as a writer and as a person.
How to Be In Community with Your Fellow Authors
I know I just said that one of the benefits of being in community with fellow authors is that you have common goals and interests. However, being in community with your fellow authors is not just a bunch of people who come together because they like the same shit. It’s about connection, support, and mutual growth. It’s a space where writers share ideas, offer constructive feedback, and celebrate each other’s successes. It’s a place to find encouragement, accountability, and inspiration, making the often solitary process of writing feel less lonely. What it isn’t is a competitive or judgmental environment. Being in a community doesn’t mean comparing yourself to others or feeling pressured to meet someone else’s standards. It’s not about critiquing to tear others down but about building each other up through positive and helpful feedback. Community is meant to be a safe, supportive space where everyone can thrive together. And in case you were wondering, it’s community over competition all day, every day in Wordmakers. There’s enough bread out there for all of us to eat. No need to fight over it!
Honestly, how to behave once you’re in a community is easy once you make a commitment to it. But…let’s be real…
Most of us struggle with introducing ourselves. Interacting with others can be awkward, or even painful for some of us, especially if you’re introverted or shy. Even the most confident among us have had those moments where we overthink every word or feel like we’re out of our element. It’s completely normal to feel this way when meeting new people, particularly in settings like writing groups or workshops where you’re putting a bit of your soul on display.
For introverts and shy folks, the idea of walking into a room (or a Zoom call) full of strangers and starting a conversation can be daunting. The silence before you speak feels heavy, and finding the right words can feel like searching for a needle in a haystack. Even if you’ve rehearsed what you want to say, your mind might suddenly go blank when it’s your turn.
But here’s the thing—most people feel a little awkward in these situations. Whether they show it or not, nearly everyone experiences some level of discomfort when they’re meeting new people or stepping outside their comfort zone. The good news is that this shared experience can actually bring us closer. We all know what it’s like to feel a bit out of place, and that common ground can make interactions more genuine and relatable. The key is to remember that it’s okay to be yourself. You don’t need to have the perfect introduction or the wittiest comment to make a meaningful connection. Just showing up and being open to the experience is enough. Chances are, the person you’re talking to feels just as awkward as you do, and that shared vulnerability is often what sparks the most authentic and lasting connections.
Having that said, getting involved in an author community can be a bit daunting. Folks don’t like to admit this, but it’s very cliquish. You may have even seen me say on threads that the romance writing community is not nearly as welcome as it proclaims itself to be (which is part of the reason why I started my own group instead of begging for a seat at a table that wasn’t set for me). However, that doesn’t need to be your experience! There are ways to ease into it while still making meaningful connections and contributing to the group.
Here’s how you can be an active member of any author community, with some extra tips for those who find it a bit challenging to put themselves out there…
1. Start Small and Engage on Social Media: If large groups or in-person meetups feel overwhelming, start by engaging with fellow writers on social media. Follow authors you admire, comment on their posts, and join writing-related conversations on platforms like Twitter, Instagram, or Facebook. This allows you to connect with other writers at your own pace without the pressure of face-to-face interaction. As you get more comfortable, you can start sharing your own writing updates or thoughts on the craft.
2. Offer Support and Feedback in Ways That Suit You: Offering feedback doesn’t have to mean diving into detailed critiques right away. You can start by celebrating others’ successes or sharing a kind word on their work. This could be as simple as commenting on a piece of writing that resonated with you or sharing how much you enjoyed a fellow author’s latest book. As you build confidence, you can offer more in-depth critiques when you feel ready. Providing support in small, thoughtful ways can make a big difference and helps build a positive cycle of encouragement within the community.
3. Collaborate on Projects at Your Comfort Level: Collaboration doesn’t have to mean taking on a major project right off the bat. You can start by contributing to small community efforts, like sharing writing prompts or contributing to a group anthology with a short piece. These smaller collaborations can help you get used to working with others and give you a sense of how your ideas and styles might mesh. As you become more comfortable, you might explore co-writing or other larger collaborations. Collaboration is a great way to connect with others, but it’s okay to start with what feels manageable.
4. Share Resources and Opportunities When You Feel Ready: If you come across a useful article, a writing contest, or a publishing opportunity, share it with your community. This is an easy way to contribute without stepping too far outside your comfort zone. You don’t have to be the loudest voice to make a difference—simply sharing resources shows that you’re engaged and invested in the group’s success. Start by sharing things you’re genuinely excited about or that have helped you in your writing journey.
5. Be Open and Authentic in a Way That Feels Safe: Being open doesn’t mean you have to share your deepest secrets. Start by sharing small successes or challenges you’re facing in your writing journey. For instance, you could talk about how you managed to finish a difficult chapter or share a tip that’s helped you stay motivated. As you feel more comfortable, you can gradually open up more. Authenticity builds stronger connections, but it’s perfectly okay to pace yourself and only share what feels right.
6. Respect Differences and Find Your Niche: Every author brings something unique to the table, and so do you. Embrace the diversity within the community, and don’t feel pressured to conform to others’ styles or approaches. Respecting differences means appreciating the variety of voices and perspectives in the group, which can enrich your own writing experience. Finding a niche where you feel understood and respected can make the experience more fulfilling and less intimidating. Whether it’s a specific genre, writing style, or approach to storytelling, there’s a place for everyone.
7. Participate in Events and Challenges That Interest You: Writing challenges, workshops, and book clubs are great ways to connect with others over shared interests. If large events feel overwhelming, start with smaller, more intimate gatherings or online challenges where participation feels less pressured. These activities not only boost your skills but also help you forge deeper connections through shared experiences. Choose events that genuinely interest you, as this will make participation more enjoyable and meaningful.
In the end, being part of an author community is about finding your comfort zone while gradually expanding it. Whether you’re more comfortable contributing in small ways or are ready to dive into deeper connections, the key is to stay true to yourself and engage at a pace that feels right. Community involvement is one of the most rewarding parts of the writing journey, offering support, growth, and lasting relationships.
As you can see, community can play a huge role in the life of a romance author.
It’s not just about having people to share your love of writing with—it’s about finding a crew that supports you emotionally, creatively, and professionally. From offering a shoulder to lean on when you’re dealing with self-doubt to sparking new ideas that take your stories to the next level, being part of a community can make a world of difference in your writing journey.
If you haven’t already, now’s the perfect time to dive into a writing community that aligns with your goals and values! The next #20kin5Days writing challenge is just around the corner. It runs from September 11 to 15, with prep week beginning on September 2. Not for nothing, I think it’s an amazing opportunity to immerse yourself in a supportive environment while pushing yourself to write 20,000 words in five days.
But the benefits don’t stop when the challenge ends!
After #20kin5Days, you can stay connected with the Wordmakers Writing Community and continue to enjoy the camaraderie, accountability, and inspiration it offers. Plus, there’s a 30-day free trial, so you can explore everything the community has to offer without any pressure. But joining our community isn’t just about getting through a writing challenge—it’s about building relationships that can lead to a more fulfilling and successful career as a romance author. When you contribute to and draw strength from a supportive network, you’re not just growing as a writer; you’re also creating a space where others can thrive alongside you. So, take the leap. Come for the challenge, stay for the community.
Can’t wait to see you there!
xo, Tasha
